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雖然知道這部片的盛名,但並未趕上院線的放映時間,還好有新北市的府中15(目前所有場次已售完)。

故事很簡單,主題明確的勵志片。

最讓人容易獲得共鳴的當然是一開始被家人嘲笑嫌棄的媽媽*一角。不管是早晨時刻想喝杯茶看個報紙,卻得被丈夫索茶/報紙的要求中斷;或是已上中學的女兒,受英文教育的薰陶後與父親言語間對母親嫌棄的言語暴力。對比片末她自己要求站起來用破爛結巴的英文對準新人一番勉勵的話,其中提到對家庭關係的期許,與她先前實際遭受的待遇,兩相落差可見一斑。

除了家人間不自覺的歧視,更深一層的還有文化的衝擊,自身傳統的與外來強勢文化的兩相權衡,怎麼老是國外的和尚比較會唸經,造成自家人攻擊自家人的局面呢?

還好導演透過片中幾個人物的描寫,傳達了三種面對文化衝擊不同的態度。第一種佔了片中多數,覺得外來強勢文化才是正確高級,像小女兒。第二種覺得自身文化不輸別人,甚至覺得自家更強,例如英文班的學生、出國飛機上鄰座義正嚴詞的男子,做實了各國文化強弱的轉換與被打壓者的反動。而第三種,較為隱而不彰的我覺得是片末的媽媽,夫妻關係講究的是平等,國(文化)與國(文化)之前的何嘗不是如此,不同文化相看彼此是不正常的,但說到底,底下的人性感受都是一樣的。

學習外來文化,與擁抱自有文化不該是互斥的行為,更沒有高下之分。女性導演給了我們另一個選擇。

此外片中不時出現的台詞,也很適合拿來警惕自己:
『When you don't like yourself... you tend to dislike everything connected to you. New things seem to be more attractive. When you learn to love yourself... then the same old life... starts looking new... starts looking nice. 』

『This marriage is a beautiful thing. It is the most special friendship. Friendship of two people who are equal. Life is a long journey. Meera, sometimes you will feel you are less. Kevin, sometimes you will also feel you are less than Meera. Try to help each other to feel equal. It will be nice. Sometimes... Married couple don't even know how the other is feeling. So... how they will help the other? It means marriage is finished? No. That is the time you have to help yourself. Nobody can help you better than you. If you do that... you will return back feeling equal. Your friendship will return back... Your life will be beautiful.』

『In this big world... your small little world, it will make you feel so good. Family... family can never be... never be... never be judgemental! Family will never... put you down... will never make you feel small. Family is the only one who will never laugh at your weaknesses


*必須很汗顏的說,類似的相處態度也出現在身旁家人裡,媽媽一職理所當然的奉獻犧牲,等到追不上家人腳步就被嫌落伍?

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